4 Things You Need To Avoid When Getting Divorced
There is one thing that every divorced couple has in common and that is it isn’t easy. It is downright challenging and complicated even if you’re splitting amicably. Unfortunately, many couples go through it but that also means there’s a lot of insight into how to get to the process more seamlessly.
If you want to know more about how you can make your divorce go smoother continue to read on and take a look through our list of what you should avoid.
- Be Honest and Transparent
As tempting as it may be now is not the time to lie or be vindictive. In fact, lying about certain things like money, assets, or even debts could be detrimental to your case. There’s a possibility that you could be charged with being in contempt of court if you knowingly do something like hiding assets or purchases to rack up credit card debt on your joint account.
It’s better to be honest about what you have because you’re likely going to avoid the back-and-forth that comes with lying about what you have what you don’t.
- Don’t Badmouth Your Ex-Spouse to the Kids
Not only is this action bad for you and your ex-spouse but is especially bad for your children. Getting divorced is no easy thing for families and often kids are confused, scared, and resistant to the change that comes when parents split. By avoiding the temptation to badmouth ex-spouse you are allowing them to not be forced to choose a side in the divorce.
If you’re upset or angry talk to someone like your attorney rather than your kids. The chances are you’re going to regret saying what you said later anyway.
- Try to Settle Out of Court
If you can settle outside of court you might be able to save yourself a lot of trouble and you avoid the big financial hit. You may be hesitant to hire a mediator but often they are well worth the money. Mediation can solve both small and large problems and it gives you a voice. Additionally without litigation intervention is typically much faster and allows you and your ex-spouse to start moving on sooner.
However, if you and your ex-spouse have more complicated problems such as an uncontested divorce, extensive abuse, or difficulties coming to a custody agreement then hiring a lawyer is often needed.
- Avoid Telling the World You’re Getting Divorced
Many lawyers are going to tell you that you need to stay off social media during your divorce. The main thing is to avoid using social media to vent about your divorce online. Similar to not bad-mouthing your ex-spouse to your children shouldn’t do it to an audience of friends and family either.
Not only should you avoid this because you likely regret it later but it can be used as evidence against you if you end up having to go to court. Similarly, any texts you sent your spouse can be used as evidence. This is why should keep your words, and respectful or you risk them being used against you.